| Location | Burnley |
| Age | 39 years |
| Date of Death | 8/2006 |
| Visitors | 946 since 16/08/2006 |
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A COURAGEOUS and loving mother-of-four who liked nothing more than to make people smile, aged 39.
Roxanne Louise Bacon, of Kiddrow Lane, Burnley, died in Burnley General Hospital on Monday 8th Aug
2006, from pneumonia.
The last five years of Roxanne's life were spent battling severe liver damage following
complications after a routine dental operation to remove wisdom teeth. In November 2001 she suffered
liver failure after contracting septicaemia following the operation. She was rushed to St
James's Hospital, Leeds, from Burnley General where, against the odds, doctors saved her life.
Her mother, Mrs Barbara Bacon, remembered a daughter who, despite her illness, lived life to the
full and battled bravely. "Last year she underwent the most harrowing of treatment to avoid a
transplant and she had seemed to be winning her battle until she just became so tired recently and
it became too much for her," she said.
"The staff at Manchester Royal Infirmary have just been wonderful over the past few years and
made it possible for Roxanne to live her life as normally as possible."
Former Habergham High School pupil Roxanne was a creative person and could often be found painting
hand-made gifts for family and friends.
"She had a very creative spirit and a sharp eye for colour," said Mrs Bacon. "It was
only recently that her partner Mick moved her little craft shed to a peaceful place under one of the
trees in the garden.
"Family was always at the centre of her world and she was the most wonderful mother. She had
the most beautiful spirit I have ever seen, even speaking as her mother who loved her totally,
people would warm to her presence in their company. She had a terrific sense of humour, a lot which
she had tried to leave with us in the last few weeks of her life, when we look back."
Roxanne leaves her partner, Mr Mick Lord, who she had been with for 18 years, and children Jay (16),
Cory (14), Francesca (12) and Eden (9). She also leaves her mum and dad, Mr and Mrs Dave and Barbara
Bacon, and aunties Maria and Maureen.
"She was a daughter cherished by us, a mother so adored by her children and a partner to Mick
who has had his soulmate taken too soon," she said. "We will remember the love, laughter,
happiness and sadly the tears, but no parents could ever feel so blessed. Our tears will dry in time
but we will still miss her loving presence."
Three Long Years
My dearest child,I find it hard to visit here these days. Time does not heal, as you are missed as much today as you were when you were taken from us on August 7th 2006. Your lovely children still need me to be here for them, maybe that is why I have to stay. I won,t reason why darling girl, but I am finding this life a struggle. This world has changed so much since you slipped away from it. There is no kindness, no love and respect. Mortals kill in the name of faith,the world is brought to its knees through the greed of those who would have wealth beyond belief. The human race is destroying itself slowly and no one seems to have the will to stop it happening. You would not like this world child, but I know that you would tell me to make the best of what there is for the kids. Your lovely Chessie has lost her close friend Jordan on Monday, a lovely young man who had a smile that could light up a cloudy day. Please help her to find comfort, and all her friends to, as they cling together in grief for their lost friend. Jay and Cory are still trying to find their path in life, but its hard for young ones in this world now. You would be proud of them all, I am sure. I don't see your Eden sadly, but he is always in my heart and I know that I have to leave his care in your hands as I am to tired to battle those who used him as a pawn in a very sad game that can have no winners, for sure. You left behind a family unit sweet girl and your four children will always be a unit as they are joined by bloodlines to you, so I get comfort from always keeping that fact in my mind. One day, they will stand together as men, and your Chessie as a woman, and they will treasure their roots, in maturity. For now, they are all well, looked after and facing life the best way they can. Please watch over them and help me to do what is right by them. Aunty Maria still moves as an earth angel between us all, trying her best to keep the family focussed and cared for. You must be proud of the way she has kept her promise to you. I am so tired, weary of all the badness and pain, but my promise to you will never be broken while I remain here child. There is much still to do and I will do my best.
So three long years have passed my darling girl and we still await the truth from those who were supposed to have your care in their hands. The truth won,t heal a thing, but we need to know it anyway, as painful as it may be to live with. That you were taken to soon is not in doubt, you were, but we need to know that those responsible for that, face up to what they did. Know that you are so loved by us all Sana, so missed from our lives and never away from our thoughts. Your lovely granddaughter will stand with us on Friday, kissing her nana's picture and talking away to you in her strange language that she uses, even though she can talk properly now. Will you laugh at her as you must have when she took a very first step at your grave ? I think you will and that we will hear it rippling through the trees or falling down from a ray of sunshine, just as we always do when she visits with you. Dance with angels sweetie, look out for your Chessie's friend and know that you are loved and missed by us all always. Love and hugs Mum xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Happy Birthday memories, my darling girl
Are you still dancing with angels for your birthday little girl ? Or have your celebrations been somewhat delayed as you will know for sure that our lovely Cath came home to her God yesterday. Dom would have brought her swiftly, I am sure and I hope that he will gather up their lovely family in warm and comforting arms to ease the pain of her loss from their lives. It has been hard for me to cope with yet another loss, will life ever be the same when the people who are so precious to us are gone from our sight? Never from our hearts and minds, but slipped away beyond the veil that covers this world from yours, precious child.
The children are doing ok I guess. Aunty Les is here, of course you know that as you will have seen the apples she put in front of your photo, bless her. Baby Roxanne gave her nan a big kiss for her birthday, we have to watch her closely now as she is forever up on the chair, reaching out for your photo to kiss. You would be so proud of her Sana, little miss dynamite, for sure, but so loving with it. Everyone loves her, your Jay is such a proud dad. Sarah is a lovely mum and Cory Chez and Eden love their little neice to bits. Your Chez bought her a lovely outfit today ... no doubt she wanted to be able to buy her mum a present, but as she could'nt she made sure that she marked your day with something special in this world, bless her heart.
We are all unwell with an awful virus ... please watch over your Cory and especially Jay who has it so bad just now. He is unused to feeling ill and is a little frightened I feel sure.
Your birthday was almost the same as the day you were born child. The sun shone for your arrival, then the rain came down as you slept in the nursery at St Lukes Hospital. No mum could have asked for more joy than I felt as I came out from the anaesthetic to be shown this beautiful, blue eyed baby. You looked such an old soul as you stared at me, as if to say Hi mum.
Well my darling girl, know that you are loved and missed always, be around us when you can, but live well in your world until we meet again. That will be my only comfort.
Dance with angels and watch out for Cath, sweety.
Mum xxxxxxxxx
The darkest hour is just before dawn
Two years my sweet girl, long days spent thinking of where you are and what you do. We were all together as a family at your graveside today. That is the way it will be as long as I am on this earth. For one day, all will remember this day is about you, not us. In honour and respect we will stand beside your grave as we forget mortal strifes, in quiet thoughts of you.
The sun was hot as we stood there, birds were singing, your beautiful little Roxanne was laughing at her Uncle Cory, and all looked well with the day. If this had been some other time, some other place, some other reason for being there, I could almost have felt peaceful myself, but sadly, tears will fall as we remember that you were taken away from us to soon. The children are struggling, its supposed to get easier for them, but it is'nt happening like that. I hold in my heart that I know you are around them, around us all in fact, and that you will be quietly doing what you can to help them through.
I have spent many times in years past, sat in this place with you, as we found the quiet that can only be found in such a place, a welcome respite from the hurly burly of life. Never did I ever imagine I would be stood at your resting place, its just not meant to happen that way.
Life is different for us all now. Some of us are struggling to find our place in this new order of things, but all will come together for you, my dearest child. People have been wonderful, those I hardly knew have shown caring beyond human kindness. Others who maybe should have been more caring because of their involvement with your life have maybe withdrawn now, but I guess you could say that is life. I like to think you have had a hand in showing us what really is, for sure.
Your beautiful Roxanne is one next week, did you laugh at her efforts to reach out to your photo today, as she tottered on shaky legs to show how she can walk on grass !! You would so love her, you DO love her, I feel sure of that. Our Cesca needs a spiritual hug from her mum ... I cannot even think what it must be like for this lovely young girl to look at her life ahead without you, but I know she must struggle a lot at times. Cory left school and will start his apprenticeship in electrical engineering if he has good enough grades. If not he said he will go to College and improve them, as he promised you he would. Your Eden will start High School in the Autumn ... he is still the baby you left behind, child, I want him to value his remaining childhood for as long as we can keep the realities of life from him. Jay is my worry and heartache. He has lost his way somehow, please stay as close to him as you can as he is fast becoming a bitter and angry young man. I try, but it needs more than I can do here. Aunty Maria remains the rock we all lean on, but I am making sure that she is propped up to as she has been down of late. The more time passes, the more you are missed so we all feel as if we are not doing as you would want of us.
You were a bright, shining, priceless jewel my child, one that can never be replaced ever. As summer nights shorten, and the veil which seperates us from you is thinner, we watch and wait for you around us, bringing us the comfort and peace we have known from you before. The time will come when you will step out of the light and take my hand to lead me home. I will gladly do the mortal duties you have left me first, but I wait for that time when I will see your beautiful face again, with all my heart.
Sleep well sweet girl, dance with angels in sure and certain belief that you have left behind the pain and strife of mortal existence for the beauty, peace and wonder promised to us all by the Mother of all Creation. I love and miss you always Sana ... that will never change, for sure. Mum xxxxxxxxx
Dear Roxanne
I am supposing you grabbed my attention and brought me here this morning to show me how your mum and rest of the family is doing. I have been thinking a lot about you and them lately and now I know why.
Please, speak to Mum's heart and let her know that I am praying for her health and wishing her all the good things that this Universe has to bless her with. Of course, I speak this for Aunt Maz and your precious children, as well.
It's the time of year for new beginnings, as you well know. The beauty and bounty of earth is sprouting and the day's light is getting longer. I always look at it as Mother's way of raising our spirits from the dead in all it's dark moments and bringing us to live life anew and into the light......a light that only comes from love.
The love from you, Roxanne does shine light on us all. May we all look forward to our lives bringing a new blessing upon us each day. I love you, Roxanne and I love this family of yours as my very own....and I hope you all will know that you remain inside of my heart always.
Much light, blessing and love always,
Amanda
The blessing of a life well loved
My dear sweet child, Yuletide blessings to you always. Lady Winter nipped at our feet as we stood with our memories at your grave, but the sun came through with a golden ray of comfort for our chilled bodies and troubled minds. We miss you so much Sana and it has not helped us to find that peaceful place you would want us to be, especially as we now know that you were taken before your time. Your children will find the mortal justice you must have my dearest girl ... there can be no chance left that this will ever happen to anyone again, that I promise you. Our lives are so different ... baby Roxanne is such a treasure as she looks and grows as you did as a baby, but we all feel so sad that we cannot see you bounce her on your knee. I know you watch over her as she grows and that is a big comfort. Her nan is an angel who can be everywhere she is needed and I am sure you fly home as much as you are able to do.
I am selfish at present my dear child. I cannot think beyond my own pain of your loss and I know this is not good or positive and would not be what you want, but I am stunned and cold at the true circumstances of the end of your life. Those who should have had your best care at heart failed to give you that right. How that ever could have happened I just don't know, but we will know and only then will these children find the peace of mind they need to go forward in their lives. Mick guards them well, but he hurts to and is not able to move on and let you move on to. I promise you my child, I will seek to gain closure for everyone on this. Aunty Maz is still earth angel, despite her own pain and feelings of loss. I hope you can stay close by me when I go in to hospital in January sweety ... it is a great comfort to me when I feel your energy buzzing around. I am a little nervous I guess, but only because of the kids and their fear of anything that takes one of theirs into a hospital now. Its very hard to reassure kids who have suffered a loss such as they have had. You would be so proud of them Sana ... they have such a strong sense of family tradition that I know that when I am no longer here, they will all pull together to keep that going. Your Chezzy is a darling girl, Cory is a young man, a little sad maybe, but really trying hard, Eden is your same baby he always was and tries to make us all laugh as he did you and your Jay is a young father to be proud of as he cares for his Sarah and your little granddaughter. She is almost sitting up alone, it is hard to believe she is only four months old she has come on so fast. Mick is still sad and must sometimes think he is in a nightmare, but he is a great dad, as you always knew he would be for sure. The kids will always be the first in his life, but I do hope that he can move on from his sadness in time and live his life as you would have wanted him to do.
So my child, know you were in our hearts and always in our thoughts on that cold morning, as always. I will love and miss you for all my days and when it is time for me to finish my journey on this earth, I know you will be waiting to guide me home again. Fly high precious girl, free from the shackles of mortal strife. Love you Sana. Mum xxxxxxx
Autumn leaves
Autumn shows its beautiful face dear child, as Winter nips at her feet early this year. How you loved the colours of Autumn, magical hues of the mystical kind you called them. My birthday has come round for the second time without you and there is no joy in my heart today. Baby Roxanne brings her special joy to our lives and we feel much sadness that you are not here with us to share this time. So much she does reminds us of you, many times we see her laughing and giggling at something unseen by our blinkered eyes. I like to think that is you, her angel nan come to play with her first precious grandchild. The wind blew a perfect passionflower from the vine today, it landed on my knee as I sat at the garden table taking in all the colours of the changing leaves. Maybe your hand picked it and I thank you for it my dear girl. The children are fine ... they miss you so much and Eden asked not to go to school on his birthday yesterday, just as he did last year. I guess his little mind can't be joyful with his friends yet, its just to soon for him to cope. Your Pops is fine, Aunty Maz is sort of getting back her strength again, but please keep watching over her sweetie as she needs you close by. Please watch over Cath in her struggle with her illness, we are so worried about her. Maybe you can round Dom up to join in our Samhain celebrations later this month. You will see your candles shining out to light your way home anyway so you can both bring your own special feelings to another gathering without your physical presence, as you will. You are so loved Sana, our lives will never be the same without you in them. My wish is that you sleep well, dream beautiful dreams and that you come home to see us when you can. You are held close in my heart and thoughts every minute of every day. Blessed Be child xxxxxxxxxx
No sun in our hearts today
One year has passed my darling girl and the pain goes on. Blue skies, butterflies floating on summer breezes and flowers blooming with every colour of the rainbow, all these things remind us of you. But when you are not here to share them with us they lose something ... almost as if we are not meant to see that beauty again. They say that the sadness and pain passes but it really does not ... I find it harder each day that goes by. I wanted to wrap myself up like a cocoon today, let the day pass without having to remember what happened on this day last year. But I know that I can't do that ... the children and Mick need support and your Pops and Aunty Maz need it to. So I will stand where you rest quietly and can be lost in my own thoughts of you as I remember the joy you were to me ... no mother was more blessed than I to have you for my daughter. I love you my dear child and will miss you always. Mum xxxxx
Love and light child
No sun for Midsummer Solstice today little girl ! Its just as if the Mother is sending us driving rain to wash away the tears of sadness we shed that you are not here for our celebrations. You so loved this time of year, we had to light the candles ourselves today, something you always took much pleasure in doing. I am sure that they will light your way home, you can bring Dom along with his guitar, if you can prise him away from his family for five minutes lol !
Auntie Maz misses you so much today and so do the children. Your grandchild will be born soon, of course you know this better than we do, and I am sure that you watch over Sarah and this precious little life prepares to come into the world.
They say that things get better, that grief will fade, but I guess that does'nt apply to us all because we are still as overwhelmingly sad today as we were when you left us here nearly a year ago now ! Uncle Robert stared at me in shocked disbelief when I said that to him recently as he said it seems like only yesterday you were here with us. Well not for me it does'nt, its been to long and to painful for it to have ever been 'like yesterday' my sweet girl. I promise to try harder to see the light again, but forgive me if it takes more time than I want to spend on this earth without you.
We all love you and miss you always. Fly high sweetie then fly low as you come to visit with us. Love you Sana, Mum xxxx
Such a concert going on
My darling girl, you will know by now that our Dominic has come home and there will be such a concert playing out there ! I can almost see you sat in the front row telling all who will listen that he was but a baby when you bounced him on your knee ! Thats if anyone can hear a word as his talent is great and he has come home to soon, just as you did. Maybe you can both come visiting ... for sure you are good at doing that now lol, but Dom is just a learner in the art of flying high, so together you can pop back and fore. Just don't teach him the art of chaos with the electrics that you create :)). He was good at that here for sure, but maybe Karen and Darren would prefer he just mastered the art of flying first !
We miss you so much Sana ... I was so proud of the kids as they were very brave at Dom's funeral, then Mick and your Cesca came to visit with you after it was over. Your Pops was very upset as he thought of that little boy who called him 'Elvis'. I hope Dom does'nt meet up with the real Elvis as he will call him an impostor for sure :)). Chez is going away with the cheerleaders this weekend ... the first time she has been away without family since you left us. I am proud of them all sweetie, they are great kids and a real credit to the way you raised them for sure.
Amanda is very sweet. I am sure that you will watch out for her and her family through their mortal strifes at this time.
I am totally wrung out dear girl. All this has happened in less than a year and it is just to much for me to take in ... not sure I can stand to many more shocks for sure. My only consolation ... if there can ever be that :(( .. is that I know you are close by and watching over us. Cath could do with a hug right now, maybe you can take care of that for Dom until he is rested enough to do it for himself. Aunty Maz sends her love ... she is unwell and I am worried for her to, so a bit of comfort from you is needed for her to, little girl. Be sure that you are always in my heart and never forgotten. Your light shines on child. I love you Sana. Mum xxx
Last Night's Serenity
Roxanne,
Last night, before I fell off to sleep, I looked over to my altar. The white candle that I always light before I turn in for bed was flickering so gentle. My soul was at ease.
Then, I moved my eyes to the right, where pictures of my daughter, Michelle who passed on to Summerland in 1982 at almost two months of age from Sudden Infant Death Syndrome and you, sit just to the right of my white candle upon my alter.
The candle's flicker illuminated both of your faces and I just stared in awe. Suddenly, this tremendous comfort and a quietness came over my entire being. You both look so beautiful together and I wonder if you have met my Michelle, yet. I always hope that you have.
With what Mum says about you being such a great mother for your children here on earth, I would be so grateful if you would consider being Mum to my Michelle as if she were your very own. I know you will take good care of her and love her very well, as you so did your children on earth.
Somehow, I feel that my spirit hasn't been settled about Michelle's passing, because I still feel that need as a mother to nurture and love her and my heart aches so much to do so. But, if I knew she would get this from you, perhaps I could be at rest.
Roxanne, you are so beautiful to me and I am grateful for you and willingly choose to call you my sister. I promise to help Mum through her pain of your passing, she is so wonderfully awesome to me and I appreciate you sharing her with me. Be sure that I will do my best to make sure she knows she is loved.
Blessed Be My Sister,
Amanda
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